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I spent many Valentine’s Days alone or even lonely at the times so today I want to share some self-love tips for this Valentine’s Day if you are spending it by yourself.
I think on Valentine’s Day we focus too much on couples and being loved by someone else. I was always confused about why do we skip self-love and being loved and respected by yourself first? This is a great day to do just that – put yourself first and focus only on yourself, especially, if you are not in any relationships.
Self-love tips for Valentine’s Day
1| Don’t invent the wheel. Don’t overwhelm yourself this day. Stick to the things that you love and make you feel safe and happy. No bad vibes today and no unnecessary stress. This day doesn’t have to be perfect according to anyone else just perfect for you.
2| Create a safe and happy space. Decorate, put candles, get some flowers, and make sure your space is clean so that you can feel extra loved and special today.
3| Do at least one thing that you rarely do or always save for later. It can be anything from enjoying a cake or a smoothie, face or hair masks, doing your nails, or writing in your journal. Just do something that you have been postponing and see how you feel.
4| Don’t compare. I would highly recommend taking a step back and not looking at others who are in relationships (if this is something you want). This constant comparison might hurt. But I also think that if you are single, it is a great gift, you have all the time in the world for yourself and practically can do whatever you want.
5| Gratitude and affirmations. This is one of the most famous self-love tips, and I know it can get tiring. But hear me out.
Today is also a good day to write down your gratitude list. I know it may be hard to be thankful for what you have in life because a lot of us expect so much and compare our lives to those of others. But it just takes a little bit more looking to realize how lucky and blessed you are.
I had struggled to be grateful for my life and what I had for a very long time. Everything seemed wrong and not as I wanted or thought I deserved. But certain life events really made me realize that I have everything I need and even more.
Things to be grateful for:
- Cup of coffee/tea in the morning
- A roof over your head
- Your health
- Food you have
- Sun shining (or rain because it brings life)
- Favorite things
- Loved ones, friends, and family
You can also write down your favorite self-love affirmations or say them out loud.
6| Dance. Dancing by yourself is so much fun. I truly love it, I dance every time I have an opportunity, even if it’s for a few seconds in front of my cat. Dancing instantly boosts my mood and I feel alive.
Some of my favorite songs to dance to:
- Solita by Kali Uchis
- Delilah by Florence and the Machine
- Love Me 4 Me by Rina Sawayama
- Rain on Me by Lady Gaga and Ariana Grande
- All Night Long by Lionel Richie
- Finesse by Bruno Mars and Cardi B
- Dance to This by Troy Sivan and Ariana Grande
- Take Shelter by Years & Years
- Lento by Lauren Jauregui
7| Self-love spells. If you are into magick and witchcraft, try to cast some self-love spells. There are so many easy and advanced spells, I am pretty sure you’d find something for yourself.
My favorite one is a candle spell. Take a pink or red candle (white will work too), and carve what you wish for yourself on it. For example, “I love and respect myself“. Anoint it with essential oil that represents love, health, or abundance, and burn it.
You can look at the flame while it is burning and picture how the energy of love and peace, or white light is surrounding you.
This is honestly, one of my favorite self-love tips because there is so much symbolism in it, and on top of that fire is known for its cleansing properties. I always feel like a brand new person with so much energy after this spell.
8| Create art. Today is a great day to create self-love or self-care art. Art helps me to connect with my higher self and to feel like my true self. You don’t need much, just have a piece of paper and whatever medium you like to use (paint, pencils, markers, etc.). Let your soul speak, don’t have any boundaries while creating, and see what happens.
If you don’t like painting, try making jewelry, taking self-portraits, or doing some creative makeup.
9| Get yourself a gift. Get yourself something small and nice. It can be flowers, a cup of coffee from your favorite coffee shop, a book, jewelry, makeup, art supplies, a notebook, or whatever you want. But I think it’s a nice gesture to give yourself something symbolic. It can become a tradition even.
Some of my picks ↴↴
10| Take a bath. Bath can be so relaxing and nice after a busy day. Put bath salt, bubbles, oils, and flower petals. While doing it, focus on what you want for yourself, focus on the energy of love. If you don’t have a bathtub, take a shower with your favorite shower gel, turn on positive music, and have your favorite drink ready when you’re done showering.
Those are my self-love tips and things that I loved doing while being single and still do as a part of my self-care routine. Do you have any self-love tips for Valentine’s Day? Share it in the comments down below 💖
And remember, love comes in different shapes and forms but the most important is to truly love and respect yourself for who you are!
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